Man tends to make its decisions based on two basic principles: get away from the pleasure and pain.
to change themselves and give themselves the right motivation to change, you need to associate the idea of \u200b\u200ba sharp pain to remain as you are now.
How much it will cost not to change or continue to delay?
same time, associates a great pleasure to the idea of \u200b\u200bchange, the idea to acquire a new personality full of confidence and trust in themselves that can enrich you from every angle. Alive emotionally these feelings of pleasure and pain.
Also remember that each belief, each side of your character is supported by references that have gained through experience.
So to make a change very strong need to find as many references as possible to support your new identity, your new values.
And now take a decision to change: start immediately, you embark on a plan of action towards your goal and be careful of anything that might be of help to support your change.
Anchors: Security at your fingertips.
course you will ever hear a certain song and automatically think of the person you love, evoking all the emotions associated with it.
Like when you hear a particular scent and relive past emotions.
Here These are two classic examples of anchors.
anchor means associated with a particular mood, a sign definite, unequivocal. Whenever that happens, it automatically evokes the mood.
can be a perfume or a song, as mentioned above, but also a gesture, a handshake, a pat on the shoulder.
Do this exercise: think back to a very pleasant situation of your life, a time when you felt safe and strong.
Rivivine feelings, listen to the sounds and smells, imagine every detail.
Now squeeze your fist as hard as you can. In this way
still a very positive frame of mind to your close.
And when you get stuck, a fist with the same intensity and you'll feel better soon!
A friend with you.
Close your eyes and feel your internal dialogue to give you tips, advice, listen to you.
Dissociated by yourself while you look outside your eyes closed and talk to yourself.
In this way you're away from your current mood, you can reason with greater serenità.Ora Make this your IO dissociated, a friend who will always be near in moments of difficulty, which is always available for advice. From
confidence and security that merita.Di faced with a problem, he will always give you the solution. Facing a fear he can show you new insights to address it.
will give you the security you need in any context.
When you want to confide in someone for advice or just to download them, talk to him.
Because he will always be present in every moment of life, and live there with you, always available.
esteem in relationships of love.
It happens to everyone and is perhaps one of the most powerful experiences of life.
But not for this to be regarded negatively.
If you still feel strong emotions, does not mean that you should suffer.
Remember that failures do not exist: every experience of life contributes to your inner growth and to create a useful reference for your future.
The difficulties are challenges, negative emotions are only stimuli that guide you to the finish line.
E 'absolutely normal that the past history affect the present.
fact constitute the most important experiences are those that make you grow, are the basis of the character that you have today.
One day you'll be even stronger, it will be only the result of your experience, so he accepts the situation with calm and confidence.
not think about how and why the story is over thinks about the good things that you have lived, the love you feel, to know that you wanted. How you've grown
in this period. Keep in mind the person you loved, with respect for what you have dato.Ricordati a love story that is not a destination but a process instrument through which each of us builds his personality. Falling in love
helps us achieve our goals of emotional development and to discover our identity. It's a love story ends right where one or both partners reach their goals, or simply can no longer derive any emotional satisfaction.
Each story has its own reason for being, therefore, a life of its own, even if it's over now, the memory of the beautiful experiences together, will never erase.
The end is the beginning of a story new opportunities!
Continue Wednesday, August 6.
Edited by James Brown.
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